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Good day young men and women still single. Marrying right is not as easy as you think, real spiritual warfare surrounds marriage, go through my previous messages to young men and women, will help you to marry right. Assuming you now succeed in marrying a good person that GOD gives you and wedding plans are on course, take note of the following. 

Evil forces always look for every chance they can use to perpetrate evil, you never know who has an evil plan. One-way they usually carry out evil works is during huge gathering where they can always mix with people to perpetrate evil. As a believer in CHRIST take nothing for granted as you plan your wedding. Many have collected afflictions during wedding. Strange wedding gifts can wreak havoc in the lives of couples, disasters have struck people and wedding guests on wedding days. Some ungodly wedding traditions have exposed couples to demonic influence and infiltration, huge wedding expenses have put couples under debts, etc. A few safety tips. 

1. Both of you might be born-again, but your parents might not be, not all in-laws are born-again. Wedding, just like burials and family functions can hardly be monopolised by one person since it involves many people who also have the right to contribute. As a bride or groom, you must work with your partner's family. They might not be as spiritually strong as you are, they have friends whose nature and intent you might not know. You cannot choose their guests for them. There are many things you cannot control or predict. The enemy can easily sneak in to carry out their operations. You will need many hands to fix things and you do not know others they will enlist. This is why you need GOD who only sees all things and can fix all things. The first step you must take before embarking on any wedding arrangements is joint prayers to cover the entire ceremony with the blood of JESUS, Fire, several divine protection scriptures and petition heaven for Angelic help and intervention. This first step will help a lot. When the LORD took my mother home, I wanted to do a simple homegoing ceremony for her, but my siblings opted for a grand ceremony. This will expose the entire process to many people. I knew I had spiritual enemies who will look for any chance they get to do evil. I can only play my part, others must play theirs. I went before heaven and covered the entire process in prayers. Yes, the enemy tried many things but I never stopped praying before during and after the entire process. I also raised a few Pastors to pray along. The few Pastors who are members of a Pastors body I coordinate also prayed concerning the entire process at a meeting we had. One of the things I did is to send GOD seeds and sacrifices in appreciation for GOD taking my mother home and for HIS Mercy concerning the entire process before, during and after. On the morning of the Wake keep day, I had a Pastor prayer warrior in the house leading prayers for the occasion while I was busy running here and there. I knew agents were in attendance at wake keep, Church and reception looking for opportunities to strike, but I already put all these in prayers and all glory went to GOD. Several moves also were made after the entire celebration, but Divine Mercy keep helping us. All glory to GOD. Young man and woman, do the same before, during and after your wedding, it will help. Above all, send GOD wedding thanksgiving seed before and after the wedding. Sacrifice activate divine intervention, it works !

2. To the best of your ability, ensure only genuine believers you trust are in key places : officiating ministers, bridal train (keep them small if need be), groom's men, MC at reception, Praise and worship leaders, caterers, ushers, etc. You will agree that it is not always that easy to guarantee genuine believers in some areas, especially if your in-laws chose the Church and are in charge of reception and cooking. This is where you need heaven's intervention in real prayers before any wedding arrangement commence. Remember, there are also fake Churches and false ministers and your in-laws might not know any better. Choice of Church is very important. Genuine blessings from genuine ministers on your wedding day is good. Ensure that after receiving all the wedding blessings from the truly anointed officiating ministers, appreciate them with offerings you can afford. Don't forget that part, quite important. Put that in your wedding budget and give it to them even if possibly before the wedding. 

3. Resolutely stand against any fetish or idolatrous practices in your wedding plans. Make it clear to all your in-laws from the foundation of your courtship that you are a genuinely born-again person and don't do fetish nor idolatry. Once they know that, they will not ask you for strong drinks as dowry, take you to shrines for prayers and oblations, ask masquerades to come dance and pray for you, require sacrificial items to gods, etc. If they attempt any of such, stand your ground against it in your own interest. 

4. Plan financially ahead before the wedding. Ensure you do not go beyond your means nor get desperate for money during the ceremony. Once you can pay for what you need, will be easy to control things for good and not be sabotaged. Do the best wedding ceremony you can afford, even if it will be a simple ceremony in a small space. The most important thing is GOD'S presence, not crowd. Check your purse, make plans accordingly, become one and go have honeymoon. 

5. Do your dancing and singing at reception, but cut out money spraying. Make this very clear in announcement and have security on ground to enforce this. Money spraying is against the law in Nigeria anyway (not sure of other countries) and also evil forces have used such means to afflict couples and wedding guests. Avoid it. Givers can drop envelopes or at best have cartons on ground they can put the money inside. Gifts will come, you cannot avoid this. Ensure you cover that area in prayers before wedding so that enemies will not come to drop 'spiritual bombs' as gifts. 

As I said earlier, no matter how small the ceremony is, you cannot have final say over all arrangements, especially if it must require others who also have rights to play their part. Because of this, the enemy can use several strategies to move in. You cannot be everywhere coordinating everything at once. Many things can happen you will not see, invited and uninvited guests will come. This is why you must have adequate prayer cover added to sacrifice sent to heaven for HIS Mercy to rest on the entire process. I wish you a glorious wedding in CHRIST JESUS. 

Apostle Tosin Oke 

Nigeria 

Not all genuine ministers end up marrying true fire sisters in the LORD and not all genuine sisters end up marrying true believers in the LORD. Let me show you the statistics.

1. Genuine brothers marrying agents 60%

2. Genuine sisters marrying agents 60%

3. Genuine men ministers (be it music, preaching or other areas of ministry) marrying agents 60%

4. Genuine female ministers (be it music, preaching or other areas of ministry) marrying agents 60%

5. Genuine brothers marrying genuinely born-again sisters 20%

6. Genuine sisters marrying genuinely born-again brothers 20%

7. Genuine ministers, men or women; marrying true fire believers 10% 

The first battle you must fight, as a true sister or brother in CHRIST is to be among those that will marry genuine fellow believers. Only GOD can save you here and will require your obedience to GOD and prompt making of any sacrifice HE demands of you. I have taken my time to check how few true believers or genuine ministers who married true believers like them and escaped agent were able to do so, it all traced back to sacrifices unto GOD. Some brothers got their true sisters while they were either on the field labouring in tears and pain for GOD or after sowing some sacrificial seed that worked for them. Same for sisters. Some sisters got their true believer husbands delivered to them while they were actively involved in suffering for CHRIST in one kingdom service or the other. Others were givers to true servants of GOD, this made the Mercy of GOD deliver their true fire husbands to them. Their suffering, giving and sacrifices for GOD blocked agents from marrying them. Only GOD, not your Will or people's advice, can deliver you from wrong marriage, outside that, you will with your two eyes wide open, joyfully marry wrongly believing you did the right thing. A brother saw a 'sister' and was fully convinced she was genuine (just as many married with the same conviction). He proposed to her and things appeared well. Suddenly GOD told him to take a very sacrificial seed that will deny him of some needs he must meet and give to a specific work of GOD. Fortunately for him, he obeyed, unlike many who disobeyed and were captured. Immediately after, events that separated them began to unfold. He was hurt initially, but later thanked GOD when he finally realised GOD used his sacrifice to deliver him from an agent he was fully convinced was a genuine believer. Beloved, I have discovered that all who do not engage in such sacrifices unto GOD, disobeyed GOD or refuse to minister out of their substance to GOD'S true work eventually missed it in marriage. Casual Church members, those in fake Churches or ministries, or easy going believers making no sacrifices for GOD get cheaply captured. There was no sacrifice on ground to help them escape. 

MANY UNSEEN FORCES, SPIRITUAL LAWS AND THINGS CAN SPEAK AGAINST YOUR GETTING PROPERLY MARRIED THAT ONLY YOUR SACRIFICES UNTO GOD WILL OVERRULE. 

....Assuming you now succeed as a sister in marrying a truly called and anointed servant of GOD, take note of the following points. 

1. That marriage is ordained by heaven for your good. By simply saying "yes" to GOD you have escaped many destruction you might never be aware of. I once sought GOD in the Spirit why HE gave a very hardworking income making sister to a man of GOD still trying to stand up and who she must finance for a period. HE told me her destiny demands she go through that process to block many destruction built into her foundation from birth that would have wrecked her in relationship and marriage. She must marry and finance a true servant of GOD to escape, that is the price she must pay to have peace in life and end well. He said by virtue of the destruction in her foundation, she was meant to live a different bad life; but Salvation in JESUS and her constant service and sacrifices unto GOD brought her Mercy and delivered the true man of GOD to her. It was not the ideal for many women, but it was a needed sacrifice for her good. 

2. Because you married well does not mean evil forces will not still come after you and that marriage. They can still cause trouble if you are not careful. GOD ordained it does not mean they cannot break it up or destroy both of you in that marriage if you stop obeying GOD or make spiritual mistakes. Many true ministers marriages have been sabotaged. Take note of the following points carefully. 

3. Always insist that you and your spouse must always seek the face of GOD and do whatever HE says to the letter. Some of the instructions might be hard, ensure you both obey. 

4. Both of you were brought together by sacrifice unto GOD, never stop doing it. As long as constant sacrifice keep going up to GOD from your home (ensure your children be part too), your home becomes an altar unto GOD, not easy for the enemy to penetrate. 

5. Do not because of family needs, financial pressure or any other reason push your husband into running ahead of GOD. Never make him go find evil money. Sex is not a reason to carry out a revenge plan on your husband by pushing him into destruction. Yes, some women do it to get back at their over demanding husband. My sister, if evil forces capture your husband, they will ravage your home, destroy your children and send both of you to hell. The best way to ensure both of you stay safe is to remain within only what GOD allow. You must fight with all your might to ensure he never stray from that path. If GOD has not made him popular yet, let him be. Do not push him into evil connections that will destroy him. 

6. If GOD has not called you to join him in full-time ministry, ensure you have your own regular means of income. Do not go into full-time ministry simply because your husband is a full-time minister. GOD'S plan for you might be to make money and finance the work. Stay in it. Calling is not by marriage, it is by a thus saith the LORD. Crossing this line is what has pushed many ministers marriages into financial hardship and errors that destroyed them. This error have sent many men and women of GOD to their early graves. Do not expose yourself to ministry spiritual warfare GOD did not send you into lest evil destroy you. 

7. You must also be spiritually developed and sensitive to GOD. Though you might not be in full-time ministry, ensure you too continue to learn and grow in GOD. Will help you complement your husband and be ready for any spiritual warfare that arise. You must stand strong spiritually. 

Apostle Tosin Oke 

Hello young woman. Let us not forget what it means to be a woman according to GOD'S original design. You cannot copy everything you see or hear simply because there are always evil agendas different from GOD'S design for life. Almost every standard GOD set has been challenged by diverse forces out to establish their own agenda contrary to that which is of GOD. As you go through life, see and hear things; select only that which conform to GOD'S Word and standard and throw away every other one contrary to it. The reason is simple; when you stick to GOD'S Word and standard you get blessed, when you go against it HIS anger follows you, and quite often generational. In the midst of so many gender blurring agendas and desecration of godly standards for women, true women believers in CHRIST must stand for exactly what GOD says and live by it. Let's define and see clearly certain rules that femininity demands. 

Never forget you are not a man. Look carefully at your body, compare it to that of a man, the difference is clear. A woman must live and walk in the consciousness of her feminine physique and features. A woman's body shape is different from that of a man, therefore, we cannot dress the same way. Logically, even without reference to the Bible, certain clothes designs fit for men are not fit for women since we do not have the same body features. We all know that tight fitting clothes are by no means proper for women because of their peculiar body structure. It is pertinent you keep this strong in your mind and in all your choice of clothing as a woman since the present evil agenda is to erase sex distinction between men and women, gender blurring, male and female roles reversal, etc. This problem is one of the major reasons for the harvest of divorce this world is reaping. The woman trying to be a man plus the man being a man is equal to divorce. Men hardly fight femininity, in fact it attracts them. Masculinity in women repel them, all things being as they should be (provided the man has not been spiritually or psychologically tampered with). If you are behaving like a man to your husband and he is sheepishly submitting, something is very wrong with him. Full stop. That is not normal. I DO NOT SUPPORT MEN BEATING THEIR WIVES, but several men who do are not possessed (not everything is devils), their women simply challenged the man in them with their words and actions and it roared. Want to test my theory as a woman; go out on the street, look for a real man grown and adult (not your younger brother, not your staff, not a born-again man that can forgive), point to his face and call him "a fool, idiot, imbecile, etc", then wait for his reaction. Do not attempt it please, I am just making a point. Men were designed by GOD that way so they can defend women, be goal getters, achievers and be strong as men should be. Unless a man is possessed or has other psychological issues, no matter how strong, we tend to be naturally gentle with women and disposed to protect them. Want to test my theory, insult a man's fiancee or wife in front of him, attempt to assault his sister, daughter or female colleague and see the man in him roar to defend. GOD'S design. Men have died defending women. If you insult a man's brother, he will settle the matter amicably; if you do that to his sister, he will react more aggressively. A major reason evil forces often come in female forms to destroy men. Remember Samson and Delilah, David and Bathsheba, Adam and Eve, etc. No normal person will send a man to seduce a normal man GOD designed as man, such a seducer will be committing suicide. I am also sure imbecile men repel women too. A normal woman will not want nor respect a sit down man. A major reason men should not be staying at home when women go out to work, over time you will tend to lose your respect. If you are a full-time minister with just a small ministry, best you go out on evangelism, prayers or study at the Church than sit at home for your wife to go out leaving you at home and still come back to meet you at home, except you have other businesses you run from home. The explanation is clear, women should be women and men be men; attempts to reverse role is a major foundation for relationship problems. The Bible makes clear distinction between men and women both in the old and new testaments. Specific roles the scriptures assigned to women are : 

A. childbearing (1 Timothy 2:15) while walking in faith, holiness and self control. 

B. home keeping (Leviticus 26:26, Matthew 24:41), also 

Titus 2:4-5 NKJV

that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. 

Home care and homemaking is a role the scriptures assign to women. The Bible also ask them to work to earn a living. Full house wife is not a Bible concept. The new testament woman must balance the two, homemaking and work. Never abandon your homemaking role because of work or ministry, a reason many women lose their husbands to fake gentle, caring 'women'. C. working and earning income too (Exodus 35: 25, Proverbs 31:10-31). 

D. modesty in appearance. 

1 Timothy 2:9. Living Bible Version

[9](9-10) And the women should be the same way, quiet and sensible in manner and clothing. Christian women should be noticed for being kind and good, not for the way they fix their hair or because of their jewels or fancy clothes. 

The Bible does not outrightly condemn hair doing, jewelry or fancy clothes. Study more on that subject in Exodus chapter 35, see what the women offered to the LORD for the building of the tabernacle in verse 22.  What the Bible says is more important than all that is a quality state of heart, kindness and goodness which many women then threw away and pay all their attention to jewelry, hair styles, fancy clothes, etc, at the detriment of their spiritual state, just as many still do today. This is why you must never use physical appearance to judge a woman. Experience has shown that most who are heavy in dressing and make-up are often very deficient in good character, the heavy physical appearance often a cover up. This is what the Bible sought to correct in the scriptures above. As it was then so it is now. The Bible did not say you should dress ugly. Nowhere does the Bible say make-up or hair styles will send you to hell. Simply avoid such items sent into the world from the marine kingdoms to destroy. This is not to say all make-ups and clothes are from the marine kingdoms. Not all hair fixes are from the dead, many were properly produced with natural materials. Ask those who read relevant courses and they will teach you. Some of those things you can produce in your house if you know how, simple steps I have watched online. I, as a person, like woman natural (no make-ups, no elaborate hairstyles, etc,) though because of the way men are wired to respond to good physical appearance, it is best you as a woman learn how to dress well for your man if you do not want to lose him. The standard the Bible set in the scriptures above is "sensible in manner and clothing" . The dictionary defines sensible as, 

SENSIBLE [a.]: Possessing or containing sense or reason; gifted with, or characterized by, good or common sense; intelligent; wise. 

That is what should guide a born-again woman's appearance. Be reasonable and godly in appearance. 

Well, let me stop here, now proceed to be a Bible woman and not a worldly woman. For the watchers from the other side, glory to GOD for HIS Word that gave birth to this message. They know.